BFFFFFFFFS!!!!!!

You call, they never answer.
You leave voicemails, they never call back.
“Sorry, oh my gosh, I’ve been so busy…HOW ARE YOU?!!!!”
They write on other people’s Facebook walls, but never yours. And they’ve got tons of pictures up from a party they were at last night. “Yo, why didn’t you invite me to that party? Haha,” you try to laugh it off, “I would’ve loved to come.” “Oh, sorry, I didn’t even think of it, my bad. Next time for sure!”
You stare at your phone, and it never seems to ring.

You’re on the outside, and you don’t know why.

In your hovel of a room, the winter air freezing you beneath dirty sheets, you feel alone. It’s a bad feeling. 550 friends, and not one person to hang out with on a Friday night.

By the click of a button you can enter into a 5 year “friendship” with someone you meet one drunken night. There’s something cheap in that. Confirm or Ignore? That’s the question. It’d probably be better to ignore, but then we think that somehow that momentary ignoring, will be worse than years of false friendship and caring. What a funny world. And once we’ve confirmed, oh heavens! To delete a friend would just seem horrendous. We have puffed up self-images.

Have you ever felt rejected? Have you ever felt abandoned, even by people you’ve loved very dearly? I have. And, though it’s hard to admit it, I am sure that people have felt rejected or abandoned by me, no matter how hard I’ve tried to be as good a friend as possible.

All things are passing. I believe that if you can understand and accept that, you are far ahead of the vast majority of humanity in finding peace and contentment. Everything has a time. Being that I am religious, I believe that everything has an appointed time, and I try my best to be aware of that always. Things come, and things go; people come and people go, just as you come and you go in and out of the lives of people you encounter along the way. People die. People move away. People grow apart. Someone leaves, and someone is left, and in the leaving there is a loss. And in the loss there is a sadness, a time of mourning, a slight depression; and all of this is natural. But do not let sadness turn to anger and embitterment; it profits you nothing and weighs down your soul.

A man saw a woman, and she mesmerized him. “I must have her,” he thought. He approached her, and with wit and charm he had her. And she was beautiful. Her thick black hair, curled in wild waves down her shoulders to cover her breasts. “I cannot let others see her,” he soon realized, in a fit of jealousy. With manipulation he kept her for himself behind drawn curtains, and tightly sealed doors; she lived in shadows until she became a shadow, her beauty lost to greed and lust. Beauty dies a tragic death when it is caged.

I know it’s hard to realize when a chapter has closed, when a friendship has changed, when things just don’t work out, but dwelling on them will never get you anywhere. If a friend wrongs you, tell them. If they respond with kindness, make amends. If they respond with anger, hear them out. If they do not respond at all, there is nothing to do, but continue on.

Let fond memories and lessons learned make light your steps. Enjoy today for what it is.